You and Your Healthcare Team

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 Most often families learn of the death of their child in their physician’s office. This is a devastating moment. It is our hope that they you find compassion and understanding from your healthcare professionals. Talk to your physician, he or she may be your most valuable advocate in the loss of your baby and the hospital personnel caring for you. Unfortunately, some physicians are unaware of the options available and may be uncomfortable discussing this issue. It does not matter how many “weeks” you are at your loss. Your baby is a whole person who deserves a dignified, respectful burial. There are many different options for your arrangements. Ask your physician to help communicate to the hospital staff your specific wishes. If you need assistance with this we will be more than happy to accompany and represent you at any stage of this process in the hospital. 

 Remember you have one precious opportunity to make a memory. Make a plan if at all possible BEFORE you go to the hospital. You may want to take a camera for photos, a special blanket, or baby outfit. Depending on the age of your baby it may be possible to bathe your baby or hold and rock your baby. There is no wrong or right way to spend time with your baby. Discuss with your physician and nurses your wishes. Do whatever comforts YOU. This all may seem a little strange at the time, but these moments will fill your heart forever and bring you great comfort in the future. Physicians, nurses and Religious leaders should all work together to make this a positive experience for you and your family. 

There are many cemeteries that offer special spaces for infants. Back in His Arms Again can work with any cemetery and/or funeral home that you may desire. If you need assistance selecting one, we are more than happy to help you figure out what is best for your needs. The ministry members can also help families find financial assistance with fees if necessary.

If your baby was born over 20 weeks gestation, the law requires that you use a funeral home. Babies born under 20 weeks gestation are certainly welcome to seek a funeral home as well. Many funeral homes provide full services for your baby and family. They will work closely to comfort you and insure that your wishes are carried out.

Some options available for arrangements are:

Traditional funeral
Graveside services
Cremation
Hospital disposition with or without a service

Back In His Arms Again works with people of all faiths and beliefs. We want to help you give your baby the arrangements that suit your needs best. We are more than happy to assist however we are able.